Trust your partner to have pleasant and quality moments with him. During sexual intercourse you can have a harmonious relationship. But when it comes to penetration you can have muscle contractions and have the feeling that your vagina is completely closed, and therefore you can have pain.
Sometimes the expectation of pain can lead to pain that is not real. The expectation of pain leads to contractions, and these contractions lead to real pain.
While sex is one of the most pleasant functions in the world, in fact there is no suffering and pain during sexual intercourse. The most important thing during sexual intercourse is pleasure.
Women suffering from vaginismus do not have positive experiences. Because of negative experiences, there are involuntary contractions.
Since a woman is expecting pain, there will be contractions. The vagina records this message and with each attempt the pain and fear increase.
On the other hand, with each painful attempt, the situation is reinforced. Even if the woman wants to have intercourse with her partner, the man has a feeling of hitting a wall. The woman has the feeling of losing control of her body.
The vagina has 4 main functions:
The vagina is an organ that has its own functions like other organs. The muscles of the vagina play an important role for the reproductive organ and the urinary system.
When a woman has to urinate, she can control her muscles, so these are muscles that the woman controls without problem. On the other hand, in women with vaginismus, these muscles cannot be controlled. The tampon, the gynecological consultation and the penis are seen as a threat.
The problem with vaginismus is that the muscles contract involuntarily, and therefore the entrance to the vagina is completely closed, penetration is not possible.
The goal of the Hera clinic is to teach the woman to control the muscles, and to completely eliminate these involuntary contractions. This is possible with cognitive and behavioral treatment.
At the Hera clinic, the treatment lasts on average 3 to 4 days, and the treatment is definitive.
You may not have had sex for years while you have a partner. Over time you may have developed a number of self-relaxation methods.
The man is systematically rejected by the woman with vaginismus, he adapts to this situation and generally does not complain.
When it comes to your sexuality and your relationship, it is difficult for you to accept vaginismus. You must accept the situation for your sexuality and that of your partner.
Vaginismus can cause sexual difficulties, so there are difficulties and tensions in the family. Vaginismus is therefore not only a problem for the woman, it is a problem that worries the couple.
Over time, the mass of problems can lead the couple to an impasse, and unfortunately the couple decides to separate. It is therefore necessary to start treatment as soon as possible because sexuality is one of the basic elements of the couple.
Vaginismus is different from the problem of frigidity which is functional. In women with vaginismus in general, there is no problem of frigidity, the sexual appetite is normal.
Despite the importance of the feeling of shame and sin, the main problem is that the person is unable to have sexual pleasure. In women with vaginismus, there is no aversion to sexual intercourse, but the fear of pain is at the forefront.
In a woman suffering from vaginismus there is no problem of sexual desire. Over time, women with problems of vaginismus or who feel pain during sexual intercourse (dyspareunia),frigidity can occur.
In general, women with vaginismus are still virgins. It is possible that a woman with normal sexuality, can suffer from vaginismus later.
The causes of frigidity can be some diseases, such as hypertension, heart disease, diabetes, rheumatic diseases.
The cause of frigidity can be tensions between the couple. Although it is rare, we can also see frigidity in women with vaginismus. In this case it is important to detect the real cause.
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